Do You Feel You Are Behind in Your Life?
“BE YOURSELF…EVERYONE ELSE IS TAKEN,” Oliver Wilde
YOU ARE WONDERFULLY MADE
Have you ever wondered if you are behind in your professional or personal areas of your life? What does your gut say? Perhaps every decision you have made... right or wrong, or steps "not taken" due to fear are what led you to where you are at today! A day for self-revelation, a day to move forward with your next step or a day to celebrate your accomplishments. How do you press through those "you have missed it" or "you are behind in your life" thoughts? It is easy to think this way because our opportunities often don’t show up in the way we think they should! As you create the life you want, remember to remove the shame around the idea you’re not doing your best or you are behind in your life. Barriers can be lessons. Keep moving forward.
“To wish you were someone else is to waste the person you are.” ~Sven Goran Eriksson
Do you ever compare yourself to others? Do you compare yourself to their social media postings which shows what they have and what they have accomplished? Do you compare your story to their story? We end up comparing ourselves to an ideal ... their ideal. This can lead to feelings of being behind in your life.
WHAT CAN WE LEARN FROM A SHEPHERD BOY?
When I think of putting another person’s ideals or opinions on me, I think of a bible story about a humble shepherd boy named David. David came upon a giant called Goliath who was harassing the ranks of Israel at that time. King Saul was going to put his armor on young David so that he could go into battle and fight the 9-foot-tall Goliath. The armor was too big for David. David took the bulky armor off because it did not fit him … it was not meant for him. He went back to what he knew would work for him: a sling and 5 smooth stones. Don’t fall into the trap of comparing yourself to others and letting their opinions define you. When you do, it is like you are putting their armor on you. It doesn’t fit because it was never meant for you, and it will lead to feelings of being behind in your life. Your life is your life. Go with what you know and then…branch off from there.
YOU ARE NOT BEHIND, BECAUSE…
YOU ARE EVOLVING: Have you ever thought that the life you created in your past, may not be the life you want now. That is okay…. allow the insight you continually glean from your daily experiences to evolve you.
YOU ASK QUESTIONS: Lean into those feelings of feeling behind…why? Just pushing them down only means they will come up at another time. Lean into them and identify why you feel the way you do and put it in its proper place…under your feet! Ask yourself: “Why do I feel this way?” “Who says I am behind in life?” “Why do I believe that about myself?”
YOU CHOOSE TO CELEBRATE: Look at the positive side of your life. Celebrate all of you: your gifts, talents, quirkiness, personality, etc. They all are part of your life experiences. Celebrate where you are at today…there is a reason why you are here!
YOU OWN YOUR LIFE: No one will do your life for you. You don’t need more motivation or more inspiration. Reading another book may not move the needle. You can’t wait for others to recognize you or help you. You need to step out of the boat and into the unknown, the fear, the excitement and your tomorrow. You create it!
YOU KNOW THE SEASONS: Knowing the season you are in can be the best wisdom you will ever receive and push you past the feelings of being behind in your life. You may be in a season of preparation for what is ahead, a season of healing, a season of forgiveness or a season of rest. Let the season do what it needs to do in your life.
YOU DECIDE THE TRUTH: Feeling behind in life can turn into a trap of fact or fiction. Just because the feelings or thoughts are real, doesn’t mean it is the truth. I remember years ago a leader telling me that “just because someone says something about you doesn’t mean it is true.” So, just because your brain and your body are saying this “feeling” of being behind in life is real, doesn’t mean it is the truth.
YOU CAN CHANGE THE MINDSET: After you lean into the thoughts of feeling behind, work on changing your mindset. Change your mindset and rewire your brain to replace the negative voices to voices that move you into YOUR truth. Speak to yourself the same encouraging words you would speak to a friend. Your mindset matters.
YOU CHOOSE PEACE: Peace like a river…. I love being by the water…I love the sound of the waves hitting the shoreline. What brings you peace? What people bring you peace? What thoughts bring you peace? Focus on the peace. Standing firm in your peace is an active daily decision.
Galatians 6:9 “Let us not become weary or become discouraged in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap, if we do not give in.” Amp. version
This video reminds us it is never too late…and you are NOT behind in your life! Fast forward to 29:29 in this video to get the best encouraging word from Judge Judy!